So, is this the idea:
If I can bake a chocolate cake, or fry an egg, or perhaps whip up lasagna, then I’m going to have a successful romantic relationship?
I understand the saying that: the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach, but I thought that’s why we invented take away restaurants?!
If this is true, then maybe my relatives have a point when they say that I’m never going to settle down because if there’s one thing I know for certain, it’s that I’m never going to learn how to cook. In addition, I’m not that hot at remembering birthdays either. OMG, am I a disaster waiting to happen? No, please don’t answer that. I don’t want to know.
Ok, as a result of the above vocabulary I decided to seek advice from some professionals and this is what they said:
Building a Healthy Relationship – The Beginning Stages:
According to a relationship counselor while the early months of a relationship can feel effortless and exciting, successful long-term relationships involve ongoing effort and compromise by both partners. Building healthy patterns early in your relationship can establish a solid foundation for the long run. When you are just starting a relationship, it is important to:
- Build. Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does. Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say “thank you” to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made.
- Explore. Explore each other’s interests so that you have a long list of things to enjoy together. Try new things together to expand mutual interests.
- Establish. Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner’s feelings. Saying “I’m sorry” may be hard in the moment, but it goes a long way towards healing a rift in a relationship. Your partner will trust you more if he or she knows that you will take responsibility for your words and actions.
OMG, that’s all too much effort, and despite being native I honestly don’t understand the point about Establish. Do you understand this?
Personally, I reckon a constant flow of prescription medication is the key to a successful relationship. However, if you want to read what the professionals think, then click here